Week 35
Thursday 4th February 2010 - 7:56 PMI went back to the hospital on Tuesday for a check up. Every is ok; fundus height is 31cm, blood pressure is fine, baby is moving about and his heart rate was good. I saw both the midwife and the obstetrician, and they want me back next week for another check up and ultrasound. They poked and prodded a lot but couldn’t tell which way Nudge was pointing. If he’s breech on ultrasound then the midwife said she’d run me through the nuts and bolts of a breech labour.
I bought the fabric for Nudge’s burial gown on Saturday and am trying to get my shit together enough to start sewing. It’s harder than you could imagine. I also contacted the funeral home and have sorted out some of the finer details for his funeral. We can’t do anymore until we buy our burial plots, but the husband has just started a new job and it’s virtually impossible for him to get any time off right now to go and look at patches of ground. We’re not even sure if he’ll be able to leave early next week to come to the hospital for the ultrasound. :(
Tonight I’m trying very hard to ignore some fairly full-on low cramps. I’ve done a stack of googling and it seems that the pains are just more Braxton Hicks contractions. The husband keeps looking over at me with this very worried look on his face. Poor love. Neither of us want this to be over yet.
Hi,
I just read your Feb 2010 update, i know what u mean by being practical. Im too trying to enjoy my pregnancy but every passing week gets scarier cos im coming towards the end of the pregnancy and readier for birth. We too have been thinking about getting practical and sorting out funeral arangements. Ive decided on the type of headstone i want just not sure what to write on it – trying to find some nice meaningful words but cant decide. I think its a lovely idea that u are sewing the gown yourself. Im feeling panic set in at times cos i feel like i will labour early so want everything ready. Have u decided on any pain relief for labour? Im thinking of an epidural purely bacause i want to remember the baby being born and not be worn out and tired at the last moments. Hope everything goes well for you. Take care.
Sadie on 15th February 2010 at 4:40 AMHi Sadie,
I’ve written my birth plan and have (at this point in time) decided against an epidural. My last labour was induced and my midwife has assured me that induced contractions are worse than a naturally occurring labour. I didn’t have an epidural last time and although our baby is breech, I’m hoping to avoid needing an epi this time as well. It’s not about being a hero regarding the pain or anything like that, it’s more about being able to get up and do whatever I feel I need to do for our baby right after the birth. I’ve heard far too many stories of women not being able to get up and move around post-birth because they can’t feel their legs, etc. I don’t want having an epi to steal any precious moments with my son, and my midwife and obstetrician agree with me.
We are really sitting on the fence right now regarding the funeral arrangements. The problem is the cost of the burial plots. Our local cemetery has quoted A$12,000 for a double plot. That’s just the plot price. Then there’s the funeral director costs, headstone, costs to open and close the grave, etc. We cremated our first son’s ashes and are seriously thinking about doing the same this time, if only to spare ourselves the expense (straight up, we just don’t have the money and would need to beg/borrow/steal it). Besides we think we would really like to bring him home. We still keep Max’s ashes between the pillows on our bed and we think we’d like to do same with Nicholas (Nudge).
T.xx
Negr0Blanc0 on 15th February 2010 at 6:12 AM